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We mental health professionals are taught that peo

We mental health professionals are taught that people have 2-3 responses to stress or danger - fight, flight or freeze. Who hasn't lashed out when feeling backed into a corner, or run away from a problem? Or even felt paralysed by overwhelm,stress or fear at some time? Well an idea I've just discovered online suggests that we can choose another response... to see anything that challenges us as a "Venture". I think I prefer the word adventure and it works just as well.
So with a Venture or Adventure approach, whatever the situation facing us, we can choose to see it not as a negative, but as a challenge, journey, puzzle. When Travellers embark on a trip round the world, for instance, they don't expect everything to be perfect, they are curious about how things will turn out and know they will learn from the situation whatever the outcome.
I was thinking about when I've felt adventurous and what it was like. Often, I'm scared because that's natural, and I also "know" I've got to do something anyway. Like the time I "knew" I had to go to a networking meeting at the bottom of a steep hill in Bournemouth. No biggie, you'd think, until you know it was February , snowing and the snow was settling thickly on the dual carriageway on which I was driving. So I asked the Universe for help, had faith that it would work somehow, said a few affirmations from Louise Hay like "I am safe and all is well" and kept going.
Turning off the the dual carriageway and to the junction that led down the hill I saw.... not a speck of snow on the hill! 🤣 Don't ask me how...
And when I got to the meeting, I met a new person who invited me to an event at which I met the NLP trainer who introduced me to so many wonderful fellow trainees...
Have you ever followed your gut against the odds and, looking back, are glad you did? Share below! 🥰

The perfect confidence-building story and activity

The perfect confidence-building story and activity for 4-8 year olds this Christmas. Available on Amazon UK!

Ok folks, it's that time of year again! Daphne's

Ok folks, it's that time of year again!
Daphne's been telling me how much she would love to go and spread the word about her self-confidence boosting "Smiley Shells" with some new children this Christmas!
Suitable for age range 4-8, as well as any adults' inner child, this story is packed with ideas to create a beautiful "Smiley Shell Jar" and fill it with self affirming shells that will make them feel better about themselves, every day!
Grab your copy of "Daphne and the Smiley Shells" on Amazon Uk or ask Santa to bring it for a child you love this Christmas ❤️

For those of you who created a list of things they

For those of you who created a list of things they no longer wanted in their lives in the full moon two weeks ago, and wrote down what you wanted instead, (see my former post) this is the time to focus more on those things you said you wanted.
Write down, draw, or look at photos of what you would like to create in your new life. Something you are passionate about and want to do more of, or learn to do. Or even just how you'd like to feel.
Then focus for the next two weeks on this intention when you can, knowing that you can measure your progress at the next full moon! 🙂
If you're not sure what you want in your life, the lovely Hannah Dudley has uploaded a meditation in our Facebook Group "Safe Harbour" which may help.
See you there! :-)

Self criticism is so common among adults, as we le

Self criticism is so common among adults, as we learn it from our caregivers. Not just from what they say to us, but what they say to themselves.
As children, we often copy the behaviours of the adults around us. And those habits can last for life if they go unnoticed.
So if you want a child you love to be kind to herself or himself throughout their life, begin a habit of self-kindness and to build a positive mindset with the help of this book "Daphne and the Smiley Shells". Suitable for 4-8 year olds and every adults Inner Child.
Get it on Amazon Uk today and help a child build a kind and positive tomorrow.

We are currently in Full Moon energy, which began

We are currently in Full Moon energy, which began yesterday. The full moon invites us to celebrate our lives and achievements, but also to notice what no longer serves us. Hmmm...how do we know what no longer serves us?
Well you may have noticed certain aspects of your life that have been annoying you recently. Or some kind of "bad luck". Or an overfull drawer. Or a series of events that have made you feel down. And that's Ok. We can celebrate those moments. Because, guess what? That's Life showing us what no longer serves us!
So here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to write down a list of the most important things that no longer serve me. Not an exhaustive list, because that might take me into a downward spiral and we want to keep our energy good if possible.
Then I'm going to use that list as a guideline for what I "do" want. And I'm going to write that down as if it's already true. So, for example, if I felt my wardrobe was overfull, I might write "my wardrobe is tidy and uncluttered". If I felt overwhelmed by work I might write "I have all the time I need to do everything that is important in my work". If there was a problem with a relationship I might write "my life and my relationships are nourishing, calm and peaceful".
Then, on a piece of paper or in a journal, I will decide which of these are most important to me and draw a childlike sketch to represent the desired situation, and be grateful for it as if it has already happened.
Some people like to burn or bury in soil the lists they write in the full moon, but for me, in terms of letting go, I'm happy to rip up the list of unwanted things and pop it in the recycling for the bin men to take away for me.
One of the things I will be letting go of this time is the feeling of a tense and fearful world. And I'll be writing about a calm, happy and peaceful world where everyone is treated with respect and the overwhelming feeling in the atmosphere is love.
How about you?

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